Sex In Amman

[I've been writing this post in my head for awhile now. If you have happened to stumble upon it after googling "sex in amman" then this is NOT what you're looking for.]

Since I’ve come back the number one question I’ve been asked is “how has Amman changed?”. My typical reply was until recently “the buildings”. Yes, in the past 5 years perhaps the buildings of Amman have changed. Big deal.

Now what I’ve concluded is that the sexual revolution in Amman has been hands down the biggest change in the city this past half decade.

The stories I hear are some that I refused to believe until I witnessed a few things first hand. Sex has become so commonplace in West Amman that it’s not even funny, it’s actually quite sad. It’s not only the normalization of sex but the ease in which it’s available. A night at the club is pretty much a guarantee for most people. Relationships have become sexually based; or in other words, hooking up for the sole reason of having sex.

Guys who have one night stands at least once a week is the new norm. It will take a minimum of one drink, one dance, perhaps several sentences of conversation to seal the deal.

New ways to get around old ways…

A group of friends will each pay 50JDs a month to rent an apartment somewhere in Rabia or Khalda or Tla Ali, as a make out joint; a sexual clubhouse, an intercourse timeshare.

Certain places are socially stained with rumors. Whispers, known for its great steaks, is also the place where a lot of married women conduct their extra-marital (affairs) business. That’s just one example.

Specific clubs have specific times, specific windows of opportunity if you will. Guys, well educated in this field, will drive from one to another; hunting.

And when I say ‘guys’ I’m actually also referring to girls.

It used to be incredibly difficult for a male to “score” and back in high school the successful ones were made into legends. Now, their actions are peanuts compared to the norm. Primarily because back then girls closed most of the windows of opportunity that are wide open today (no pun intended). Many females would argue against the existence of “sexually-suggestive” or “provocative” fashion, but if you still think it doesn’t exist then there’s a list of places you can just to step outside that bubble. The fashion is of course backed up with an attitude; an approach.

Notice here that I’m not assigning blame to any specific gender here: both are victims and both are perpetrators; if such roles are to be assigned at all.

The reason I call it a sexual revolution is simple.

Countries such as the U.S. had progressive sexual evolutions that occurred in stages from mainly the 1950′s upwards. Ours was a revolution that happened virtually over night. We’ve gone from one extreme to the other and the results have been noticeable. There are those that would argue “it’s always been there, but undercover”, I would counter that with the fact that it really doesn’t count if it’s “undercover” and also the fact that it was no way near the level of where it’s at today. No way.

Random individuals hooking up for 10 minutes and that’s it. Forget religious rules of the Islamic world, there doesn’t even seem to be the 3-date rule of the Western world.

Girls as young as 15; married women as old as 45. From stylish just-came-from-the-salon hair, to the hijab adorned ladies. From virgins to mothers. And guys from all over, but mostly those who drive nice cars and spend money like they don’t care.

My best friend has a relative who we can call a “smooth operator”. And seeing this guy in action is quite the sight. His looks do not get him far at all, but perhaps his charismatic and fearless behavior gets him into bed with a random girl at least every other day or so. He tells us that after 2 minutes of conversation with someone he will put the invitation on the table straight out. This is in the cases where he doesn’t get the offer first within those 2 minutes (5, if its a very pretty girl who’s throwing him off his game a bit). He tells us that the first question he’ll be asked by a girl is whether he has an apartment.

You kind of have to see it to really, really, believe it.

But what happens now?

Do things spiral further down that direction or does it only set the stage for another rise in ultra-conservatism? I wouldn’t be surprised to see both things happening simultaneously.

We are swinging between the extremes and the middle ground has been pretty much lost. It’s become very difficult for someone to maneuver in this environment without leaning and thus falling in a certain direction.

So when I get asked the second biggest question these days: “how are you adjusting”, I say “barely”. It’s become difficult to lead a moderate life. I’m lucky to be surrounded with a particular group of friends that share common interests and that makes things easier. But we are bombarded with the extremes every time we go out and we spend half the time just looking for a place to escape to.

Where do we go from here?

The answer is too scary for me to even think about.

226 comments
some guy
some guy

to be honest i dont see any harm in a "sexual revolution" as a matter of fact its a step forward. I think u should be busy writing much more important stuff. goooooooooooooo SEXY AMMAN!

Mira
Mira

Let them be, malna w malhom, why are you upset? Let's learn to respect all opinions and personalities no matter how different they are from ours.. stop judging people, they have their logic and you have yours.

Uncle Fester
Uncle Fester

People aren't having sex in public, or having orgies in front of private citizens. We always have to complain. At one point, we say women are hypocritical, acting so closed minded only to be 'open' behind closed doors. Now, men and women are being who they are, and that's annoying you. The only reason sex is more 'apparent' here is because people's actions control people's perceptions, not the other way around. Now, if you fear what society would think, you become that fearful society. However; if you start a trend of being your own person, then slowly, that fearful society will accept you. People simply follow. So, sex being the norm here, is completely fine and it's always been. Someone has finally decided to lead. Sex isn't wrong.

Sami
Sami

Correct but exaggerated observation.

elie
elie

Everyone just chill, what jordan is going through spain went through it like 30 years ago - yes there were extremes but now with so much work and the crisis hardly anyone has sex no more, i guess people are also just plain bored of it. The same will happen in jordan - after the huge sexual explosion there will be peace and a middle ground. INnshaalla !

Ian
Ian

I was out in a well know Mall last evening, to meet my Asian Girlfriend, and we planned a night in a hourly hotel. Because my accomodation has a no guest ban, and here also. Whilst I was waiting i started chatting to two young Jordanian sisters. I sat on a bench with them, and chatted about dating in Jordan. The elder 31, was security for her little sister 16, who was waiting for her date. They were well dresssed in western outfits, both very beautiful, and very attractive. The younger, at 16, was planning some time alone with her BF..... I was temped to get the phone number of the elder. But resisted the temptation. I would like to meet Jordanian girls for dating, but apart from these sisters have never actually been able to chat freely. Just how many hourly/ half night hotels are there in Amman.. All the reasonable hotel I know will not entertain my needs. Ian

Ian
Ian

What about bringing this up to date. Very interesting reading. Update to 2012 please. Ian

Moh'd Madi
Moh'd Madi

UMMMMMM, this is a very sensitive issue take me as an example : I'm 35 Yrs old guy i make over a thousand monthly , I'm still single I can't afford marriage expenses especially that I had a bad exp and broke up with My fiance and i got alternatives and yes sex is very important at least twice a week what shall i do and those thousands of guys it's not a sexual crises only it's a financial issue as well I mean i can get the pleasure and the need without any commencement so why would i bare the hassle of marriage I'm so open and transparent here admitting my needs and of course the others. the subject is much bigger than u all think I'm not saying that i'm happy and satisfied with this life style and you don't know what is the real divorce ratio in amman this is tearing and ruin families the core of our new social life and threatening future God bless Jordan ps: use condoms and stay safe

brooo
brooo

i was out of jordan for 12 years, infact girls in amman still sick

Yazeed Waleed
Yazeed Waleed

I bet you all ends up here after typin` sex in amman! this is not what ur all expected i know;) so this is my email for girls only who would like me to bang them;) D3vil@hotmail.com

mrwiner@ymail.com
mrwiner@ymail.com

كن على حقيقتك ولى تبالي ارفع راسك في الاعالي لنك اردني يا ابن الغالي عش وحافظ على شرفك و دم المنوالي إدعو لي بالنجاح الله يوفقكم يا غوالي دام انك اردني وعربي قول وانا مالي وجع راسي من ورى هل موالي اختم بقولي للعرب والمسلمين الصالحين الغوالي إبعدو عن كيد المناجس والاصحابي حكمو عقولكم قبل البدء بل…….. معاصي نضرة فضحكت فغمزة فسلام فوقع في المعصية

إبن ما يهاب
إبن ما يهاب

كن على حقيقتك ولى تبالي ارفع راسك في الاعالي لنك اردني يا ابن الغالي عش وحافظ على شرفك و دم المنوالي إدعو لي بالنجاح الله يوفقكم يا غوالي دام انك اردني وعربي قول وانا مالي وجع راسي من ورى هل موالي اختم بقولي للعرب والمسلمين الصالحين الغوالي إبعدو عن كيد المناجس والاصحابي حكمو عقولكم قبل البدء بل........ معاصي نضرة فضحكت فغمزة فسلام فوقع في المعصية

Walid
Walid

Here's my belated 2 cents. Growing up in Amman in the 70's and the 80's things were pretty fun and wild. Drinking parties, and yes people doing drugs and hooking up! There it is out, people were having a good time in Jordan since the swinging 60's too. Then it stands to reason with the explosion of the population and the advent of the internet things have grown and increased in openness. Don't forget that Drugs, booze, sex and any form of "entertainment" is available. People have sex and will do so. What does it say about a country when a parliamentarian (a woman) chastises the government and Parliament because there are a million bordellos? Tells you something doesn't it? What I wish for is that people would just grow up! What goes on in peoples pants is of no concern of yours, if men and women want to play around let them, how is that going to affect you? (the You here is a general one to society). What I am against is the whole hypocrisy thing. Schools need to educate people on STD's prevention and that sex has it undesirable consequences if you are not careful. Silence = Death.

Aya
Aya

To my opinion, no one will be able to talk about any sexual revolution comparable to the western one as long as such a huge taboo will keep surrounding sexuality here, for that breaking this taboo can actually be considered the most meaningful change in the way western societies relate to sexuality. First and foremost, pulling the debate out of the religious and the moral spheres (take a look at the comments and notice just how often Allah is being involved in the matter... that, in itself, from a western perspective, is very edifying), then being able to adress the issue of the lack, if not, too often, the total absence of sex eductaion at school and inside the families, in the sense that this should be considered purely as a public health issue, in a dispassionate way. Here, only a very very few people feel free to talk about sexual behaviours among the young people, and it gets even worse whenever it comes to women and sexuality. I don't really think that relations are getting more and more sexually based. Maybe is it more common to see people renting flats for a few hours (those ads in certain newspapers mentioning, you know, flats to rent "weekly, monthly or yearly") when people would, before, simply settle for their car and a dark place (the airport road, to mention only that one). Well, this is true also that some people originating from the upper classes now start breaking the taboo of virginity. But for the rest, I don't see any change significant enough to allow us to talk about any sexual revolution. Jordan, and the same goes for most of the arab world, still has a long way to go. But this article deserves praise at least for being there, opening a space for debate.

Gironde---
Gironde---

What is bad or condemnable about searching for "sex in Amman"? If you are in Amman alone, and need hugs, don't know anybody, why not to search on the web? I understand that in an Islam country sex is not a subject of public discussion, I understand (though disagree) that prostitution is illegal, but I would never believe that there is no demand for erotic services, should it be massage or anything else. And, where there is a demand, there must be a supply as well, so there must be also in Amman.

zeali
zeali

COMMENT #50 Sister Muslimah moved to Jordan from Canada. I feel your frestration.You are absolutely right. I was born and raised in Jordan then I immigrated to the US. I visit every few years and I noticed the change every time I visit, sadly the change is from good to bad to worse. It is easier to be a muslim in the US than in Jordan ,we have more relegious freedon here than in the land of Islam. I will not go back to live there for nothing.

Muath
Muath

@Tee .... THANK YOU FOR THE WORDS !!!!! I LOVE YOU !

OR
OR

PLEASE READ TO END!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A very interesting dialogue! I have to agree with Koko # 169, when she said that we are having searching "Sex in Amman"! I admit I was. And if ANY denies this fact, he or she are lairing to themselves. Regardless of the fact that life styles in the ME have changed and Amman is no different, however, sex is here to stay! It is the way we go by it. I love sex more than average. And I still believe that you always find what you look for in any city! This dialogue has been going on since 2007. I was thinking that if it is so important to many and even more, how about if we all reunite in making a "Debate" about it? This would be a start of an interesting TV Series! Don't you all agree? Sex being a taboo in our society due to religious reason, has been the reason for making it so bad to discuss! If any of you intellectual soles wish to have a forum on the subject, I will be happy to receive your wishes and organize a place, time that is suitable and agreeable and open the dialogue. I am not sure how this will evolve. But am sure many would love to meet, and hey, this may in-up being a great opportunity to make new friends and take from there! I am in Amman for a short time. I do however come and go. I may be contacted on o-rabi@hotmail.com You all have a great day. Omar You all have a great day. Omar

Phoenix
Phoenix

I don't know where you go, I go to hot shots and its hardly ever busy there, I find myself the only girl there at times and no pick up lines whatsoever. Maybe I'm just too damn intimidating for my own good hahaha! If you hear about Fettish clubs hit me up, i'm interested to see THAT!

Asem
Asem

Hi Tee, Just i wanna comment on your last words "I believe religion is just another brainwashing method… ". you think that you are modern by saying "live and let others live" and then you said the above. brainwashing !!!!!!! this isnt accepted, if you dont have any standards control your life, there are others and many others have. you should be sorry of your say.

Mohammed Nawafleh
Mohammed Nawafleh

i agree with you , how can we married in the furure ,, we will lost the trust betwen us and our woman ,, wake up ... no one of us accpt that for his own wife .. thank your for your wanderfull subject ...

Tee
Tee

Live and let live!! First of all people change, societies change, not all of us really care about religion or culture! If you don't wanna have sex then don't, others do! Why do people think they have the rite to judge other people by their own standards! If you wanna pray go ahead knock yourself out no one is stopping you! I myself don't believe in God and in Jordan we have freedom of religion and choice! But just because you don't agree with what is going on , it doesn't mean it shouldn't be there. Because some people don't care about religion or hijab I oppose that 100% but who am I to judge women who wear it? But just like you don't like being judged by other people's standards then don't judge others and let other people live the way they want! I believe religion is just another brainwashing method...

Habib
Habib

I enjoyed reading the various feedback on this topic. There is no wrong or right answer here. What Jordan is experiencing is similar what other Arab countries went through or going through. In my opinion, this is a form of social and moral occupation by the west who for the past 50 or so years have been planning this. Islam as the fastest growing religion is a big threat to the west and to their financial interests in the region. Please do not take me wrong, I am not trying to politicize this social issue, but we would be naive if we ignored the root cause. Some of you mentioned suppression of individual sexualities because of the Islamic teachings. Where I may disagree is that we seem to blame the game, but not the players. Islam has been a way of life for many centuries and what experience now in the Arab and Muslim world s in terms of humiliation and loss of dignity and honor is attributed to the fact that we got away from these teachings that organizes all aspects of our lives. I do not deny that we all have sexual appetite and it may sound so good to have the ability to get laid when you want, but let us pose for a moment and think about the consequences of this. I am in no way saying we should not have separation of church and state, but the moral corruption we are enduring as a society will have a price someone has to bare. This is not a Muslim vs. Christian discussion, this is a social issue that may create far reaching impact on our youth. Just a thought!

Stranger in my own country
Stranger in my own country

Wow .. This article was published in 7th of May 2007 .. last entry was in 13th of Oct. 2010 .. lol .. and now me @ 24th of Jan. 2011 ... Well Amman changed a lot for sure ... you can feel the true shuck when be in my shoes ... usually I leave Amman for few years and then come back to notice a shift that should happen in 20 years time frame ... The sad part is .. making friends is become harder .. in the old times making new friends was truly easy ... now people becoming very idiotic ... each person you talk to acts as if he or she knows it all .. lol

joanna
joanna

This article is a a gross over exaggeration and an opinion as opposed to fact.

jeries
jeries

i am from Jordan but i live in the states. i visited Jordan in 2007 for four weeks . i did sleep with four girls. if you believe me you know the real Jordan, if you don`t believe me you don`t go out enough. sex in Jordan is as widespread as in America. be brave with the girls , tell them what you want and do not be shy...you will get them. this is for real. i will be in Jordan 2010 December.

محمد
محمد

ما في بنت بالاردن اليوم عدادها عالزيرو ليش نضحك على بعض

jamal
jamal

why are we burying our heads in the sand, infidelity..anal sex are widespread in jordan.

maodeh
maodeh

what do you expect when you drive all your attention on such a topic? this shit happens everywhere, and you can't build your theory or whatever you call it based on a told stories, you didn't seem that you lived a similar story, did you? were you invited to some guy's apartment or something? or maybe those guys' apartment (the ones that pay JOD 50 each), for god's sake !!! there are many topics are worth to be discussed instead of such a very cheap topic which is being exadurated only to ruin our image as Arabs and Muslims. Cheers

Salty
Salty

man the people who are having sex like you are saying are 1% of the population, maybe they lived there whole lives in western counties, i live in al rabyeh and i go clubbing,so im aware of this subject,its only kisses touching ,and maybeeeeee at the most anal sex,thats it !

Adam Fareed
Adam Fareed

Amman is the best city all over the world, i went out side the country and know that very much now. All love for amman and Jordan. adamfareed@gmail.com

rdabby
rdabby

There is one thing in Amman that you failed to mention, is that what GUYS love to do the most. 1 they love to brag about their sexual experiences which may or may not be true. usually 1% of the story is true.. second thing, Jordanian guys are well known for the " If he didnt get what he wanted whatever it is whether its dating her, sleeping with her or whatever" he would still talk shit about her because she said no, simply yeshel 3ardha. Happened with every girl i know at least once! And one night stands? really?? well yeah perhaps if you re talking about those cheap night clubs in Rabiyeh or Shemaisani with Iraqi chicks dancing around and head banging, then yeah perhaps because they re paying for it. But if you re talking about normal clubs with normal people who are there for the music, well allow me to say that this is just bunch of crap. I go to these places and not once have i left with a guy or any of my friends did... Perhaps it happens like once on a blue moon with a very lucky guy, but to generalize it and say it happens all the time.. Then i have to say you re wrong. Last thing, if you think that sex has become a very normal thing nowadays and a not very hush hush topic, then explain to me how come honor killings are still on the table???

bambam
bambam

lol moving out at 16 .... in the states .... lol

Khalid
Khalid

At Least in Amman Jordan Babies dont have babies as for the Rest of the world .Girl at the Age of 13 in USA and Europe start having intercourse relations and on their sweet 16 they move out of their parents home to have their own Babies without husbands ,,, the Question you need to ask your self Do you see these behavior in Jordan ??? The Answer is No . The GF/BF in Jordan is not more than being together , Dinning Out , Watching Movie ...etc some time with Certain Emotional Touch such as kissing ...etc. Socially We still Better from Most Countries Mainly the Western Countries . So If You Dont Like Jordan , Then Find your self Other Country .

nezar
nezar

The question is is that only in amman ? all in the whole world? What do u say about UAE... that i've heard that the most city in the wold have bitches is Dubai and other joke says a russian bitch asked .. wat is ur wish .. she said to wear my panties so wat would u say about Europe and other sides of the world

sami
sami

What is wrong with having sex?! Isn’t it a normal behavior to have sex? After working in Saudi for a year and residing before that in America as a US citizen of Jordanian origin I will tell you this. Let the people do as they please as long as they don’t infringe on the rights of others. If they choose to have sex then so be it. On the other hand, if they choose to wear a full black dress with only eyes showing (ladies) then that is their choice. When one of these two groups starts infringing on the rights of the other group then that is what I call a problem. Thank god perhaps one thing that is left in Jordan without taxation or shipping charges is sex lol. God knows it is more expensive here than New York City and the salaries here not even enough to buy a car. What more can these people endure? From what I noticed here there is more sex than in America. The only difference is that we are not honest about it like everything else we do. Girls in hijab are filling furnished apartments yet we claim virtue. It is time to say what we want and do what we want and act normal. NO ONE WILL EVER RESPECT A COWARD DEAR PEOPLE. Sex or other things say what you believe in and so be it. You only live once and better not to live than live as a coward. Taxation is another thing that kills me in this country. We elect a parliament that is as worthless as a merchant’s word in this country. Useless bodies to warm seats and give crap. A tax law that kills the poor and mid income families and not a word for an alternative to help the masses and aid in deficit reduction. Particularly, a tax that can create jobs, reduce deficit and inflation, benefit low income families as well as improve infrastructure at the same time. A tax that is more acceptable in this society than any other that I’m surprised the Jordanian parliament did not consider so far. I’m talking about a Real Estate Zakat. An annual 2.5% (based on the price of real estate) tax on all unused or producing real estate during the year that includes land and housing. A simple drive in Amman we notice acres of abandoned lands that are worth millions yet they are simply an abandoned eye sore. The benefits of such a tax are as follows: 1) Owners of these unused lands will develop the lands and make projects on to avoid this annual tax. This will create jobs, improve infrastructure and even make cites look more organized and developed. 2) By creating more jobs the government earns more taxes from the added personal income as well as from the new projects. 3) Reduction in inflation. There will be an excess supply of land and apartments for sale due to this tax. This in turn will reduce real estate prices and affect the general inflation level. More affordable housing for the poor and middle income families. 4) The remaining unused real estate will be taxed helping in deficit reduction Sad to go into taxation and deviate but temporary frustration over a sad situation took over

ahmed the savior
ahmed the savior

the bloody thing is not that hard to analyze... i was born in Saudi Arabia, raised in Egypt and then came to Jordan, first 2 years in Zarqa and 6 years (till now) in Amman, so i have seen it all, what is happening right now "oversexuality" you may call it, or moral loosing or what the hells you wanna call it was inevitable to happen, in a culture where we look up to americans and western europeans and their ways of living, their ways of thinking, their ways of talking their ways of dressing, trust me it was inevitable, just like when we ruled the world they looked up to us and our ways and that was inevitable, i don't think it's good where we are right now, because the western world knows where that is and they are loving it, IF YOU WANT YOURSELF AND YOUR NATION TO BE EVER TAKEN SERIOUSLY, YOU HAVE TO HAVE AN IDENTITY OWN IT AND USE IT, you see let's face it most youths here in jordan think about after the age of about 12 is SEX and they keep that up until they're 18 (college material) and then 3 turns could be taken by them at that point: 1- frustrated by the fact that they will never have sex, Extreme religious views AND/OR sick and wrong thoughts about women AND extreme masturbation habits. 2- Open wide on the world of unisex either at school (like me) or as late as university, Extreme desire for women (maybe having sex maybe not) OR turns gay AND extreme masturbation habits. 3- Just try to block that hole subject out of his system but still would love to have a girlfriend in college OR at least girls as friends AND/OR the desire to become very popular, graduates to an almost decent human being. and i think after any of these 3 turns he/she will come to a stagnation period (WORK and MARRIAGE) were they think things through and find out that they were wrong and that the right turn was right in front of them moderate religion THE religion "ISLAM" trust me they/you will if they were to ever find a way.

carlo
carlo

What goes around comes around.......this is (or would be) the natural result of so much repression and blind religionism......the worst is still to come.

ahamad
ahamad

I went this summer.2010 to visit my family in the West Bank with my very good friend who is a journalist...so he can see what is going on back home. We live in New York....after our visit to the West Bank... while in Amman my friend ask me if he can have a drink in Amman....he was dying for a drink after spending 2 weeks with my family with no drink at all.... (I do not drink my self)..so we took a taxi and asked him to take us to club where we can find alcoholic drink. He said that its not allowed in Amman...but Ill take you to this secret place...we agreed... when we got there..(it was an apartment with 2 big guys and 4 women who were almost naked)...the guys asked us if we want to have a drink and if we were interested in having sex.... I left the place quickly with my friend.....I did not even say a world....they followed us outside...I was scared....I said if you do not leave us alone Ill call the police.... they left us... after returning to the hotel..I called the police....they came pick us up and we took them there...because I could not remember the address... the arrested them after another 6 police cars has arrived...it was a prostitution house... I was really shock to see that..... anyway..sex does happen in Amman and a lot of it.... I guess it was when I asked the Taxi driver for a place to have a drink....meant to him a place to have sex....(secret word)....it sad though.... just the image of these 4 girls looking at us....they are sex slaves.....sad....

Sammy
Sammy

First and foremost, this is a great post. Both my brother and I were very intrigued by this. We spent the first half of our lives in Riyadh, then moved to the US and have been living here since. We're both at our prime adolescent ages (21 and 22, respectively. Both our families (mother's side as well as father's side) live in Amman, and like many other Jordanian families, we're originally Palestinian. Plainly said, Amman has undergone a drastic change that people did not see coming. It's interesting to see how many of the previous posts can clearly tell what kind of person you are and what your opinion is on this matter. Here is a list of what kind of person you could be based on various social ideologies: Ultra-Conservative (aka dumbass) Conservative Moderate Conservative Liberal Conservative Liberal Moderate Liberal Ultra-Liberal (aka dumbass) Personally, I would fall between Liberal and Moderate Liberal. One social ideology could not possible encompass all of your personal views in life. The fact of the matter is premarital sex is viewed as the "devil" in the Middle East; regardless of any sexual revolution that is going on, the majority will still see it this way. Personally, I'm not a fan of any extremity in the social-ideology spectrum --i.e. from being completely against any social progressions to being a fan of "trying" everything that’s new. How exactly does this all relate to the situation in Amman? Well, it’s simple. Both my brother and I started seeing very small, discreet changes in the way people were speaking, acting, and even dressing. One of our first observations was when we saw a girl wearing a see-through blouse (what we "Arabs" would call "Hafr". I was still young (about 15; mind you, I'm only 22 now) and it really didn’t bother me as much as it should have but I could see the anger and disgust in my uncles face. We were outside a local bakery close to the University of Jordan and many of the old-fashioned, traditional men around were looking at here, and most definitely not in a sexual way. There were extremely disappointed. This is evidence that we Jordanians still have some sanity left in us. Many people will ask: --"What the **** is wrong with a girl wearing a see-through shirt? It's her body; she can do whatever she wants with it!" --[edited by administrator] All I know is its disgusting and degrading when you become a herpes-infested bitch. It's not appealing to guys. What most people do not understand is the following: Westerners (what we like to call them) are not brought up, at least for the most part, with the same cultural foundations as Middle Easterners. For Arabs, especially the men, we keep a bubble over our sisters, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, etc..., any female related to us. We have a sense of respect for them and do not want anyone to invade those boundaries. When we see another girl advertising her own body, we immediately go into protection mode and despise her. How would you like it if your sister was viewed as the neighborhood whore? Now many of you are reading this and thinking to yourselves, "this kids a faggot," when in fact I'm not. I have sex, I drink, and go out and have a good time, but there are always boundaries. Never will I have a one night stand. Never will I pay for sex. Never will I marry a girl that has been drilled into so many times that she can no longer enjoy sex. As for the girl, I would expect her to hold me to the same standards. Now these are my own principles. For you [edited] out there that claim you can have a simple "2 minute" conversation with a girl and have her in bed by the end up of the night is just plain retarded, unless of course she's a HO! Then in that case, you aren't really doing anything special, I can get her into bed simply by buying her a Cosmo but I'd rather not. The $10 I save is worth more to be honest. NAS: the sexual-revolution that is going on in Jordan now is not new. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm only 22 and I can tell you that I saw it coming more than 7 years ago. It’s appalling at how much outside influence can help revolutionize a nation. What Jordan is experiencing right now is what the US went through in the 1960s and 70s, except this happened almost "overnight." There is really not much to do except to sit down and laugh at people that actually believe it’s attractive to act the way their acting. Many of them will tell you they don't care what you say or what you believe, which doesn't really matter. All I can tell you and to those who actually have what many people lack, which is self-respect and dignity, is to let those people continue to climb down the ladder of socio-economic status. And to those of you who argue we should allow such a revolution, I urge you to point out one respectable member of society who has ever acted or will every advocate something of the same par. Here is a summary in case some of you are confused: I'm not conservative; I would just rather "TRY" really hard to get into bed with a girl instead of having her flaunt her goods at me. In other words, don't be a skank, it's trashy. If you're one of those people that enjoy sex so much as to degrade yourself in public, I urge you to do us all a favor and respect the majority of people around you. The last thing I want to do is walk around Sweifeih with my Teta and see a trashy skank. It's embarrassing, not only for you, but for me. As for you Nas, wait until Amman hits what the Americans are experiencing now: the so-called "Lady Gaga" revolution. That should be interesting!

heidi
heidi

It depends on who you roll with and if you have your faith right. alotta morons and fags try to pretend to be somethin they are not by drinking and getting laid, imitating the west.you dont have to be uptight and closed minded but you should realize that you dont have to do all that shit to fit in. plus, why wud u wanna fit in with these sortsa crowds? my best advice. get the hell outta Jordan then. find yourself something to pursue. a great career, hobby. etc.work in jordan and save up. etc. most of those people do the things they do cuz they are LOST. and if you are doing goodness and refuse to roll like them, they suddenly begin to judge you. how ironic huh? in a muslim country too. but mostly has become populated with a buncha depressed sick fu**s. but there are so many good ppl in jordan too. just hard to find. point blank. Roll with those and ur good. God bless!

fawwaz
fawwaz

the sex is my live

ababneh
ababneh

when i was in my third year at the university of jordan i discovered the scope of this matter in jordan, i got depressed because i felt betrayed by my family, society, no one told me things where like that, and to be honest i searched for year for a reason to stop me from scoring, but i guess the only reason apart from the obvious sinful behavior, i found out that like this, it doesnt feel right, it feels like a lie, and the feeling of having sex with a girl, both virgins, both untouched, both married, is the best feeling in the world, and the only pure happiness u can feel i ur life thanks for the article man

raed
raed

omg i just had stumbeld on this log totally by accident(i was googling for sex in amman), but god dammit you r right , but this is not a reveloution this is a disasterous social and moral degredation, bcz any social change like this must take at least 15 to 20 years in any normal commuinity, so i think what happens in amman is a direct result duo to our lack of identity either politically or cultrely, which lead the mass of our society - teenagers and young adults- to mimick what they see on tv or the internet, and this is how we got our two extremes : the first one was fascinated with the american lifestyle that he saw in the movies or tv series. while the second one was affected more by the crimes the west commits everyday on our behalf and he decides to reject anything that comes from them. in conculision i think that the (moderate) ppl will have to choose eventually and the two sides will collide and this will be the real disaster.

merweex
merweex

hey people, actually am a male dentist, and many if what u said is some how out their to a little extent in our beloved society, hence sometimes i see some try (s) in my clinic, but i dont give a face to it,, not coz i dont like it, no i adore relations but not at my carrier place. but still this article is over exaggerating matters and issues. ...... since like more than half of sexual relations is due to money (prostitution), and that is very normal in any society, and Jordan has the lowest numbers. you said Tlaá ali and Rabia and these places are full of foreigners so do the math. sorry Mr article writer u just over exaggerated things, just dont forget it is the city life, and Amman is big city so u cant cancel these things by any mean possible. to all people who saw this article dont forget that Jordan is a mix between native Jordanians and the Jordanians who have Palestinians origins both Muslims and Christians , and both are conservative, but still we have some extremes and that's life.

hanaz
hanaz

Dear Mr. Naz, FYI, your aticle sucks. I live in Jordan and we go out and party like everyone else. We have never seen or experienced any of the stupid things your talking about. You can do do 10000000000000 things in Amman, but I am sure the author of this article's surroundings are the lowest and chepest kind. You better get out more to some decent places and live a normal life instead of the filth you are tlaking about.

YAZEED
YAZEED

*me slaps everyone* WAKE UP FOLKS! Nas is so right about it! We're facing a big problem here! Guys, just look around u, and u will see that each individual male knows like 10 chicks! One is his gf, the other is his intimate friend, and a girl he sleeps with, and that girl is his friend's ex gf who used to sleep with! AS A RESULT. HE SLEEPS WITH THEM ALL! WHO ARE THOSE? MY SISTERS? YOUR SISTERS? Just think about it like this cus ive started thinkin about it for real and i changed big time! Well, am 25 year-old , and i slept with like 80's girl or more over here in Amman! MAY ALLAH FORGIVE ME! n am not showing off or anything, its just the truth, but thanks Allah eni tobet w inhadet n am always asking for his forgiveness! and do u want to know what i meant by *GIRLS*? Well,, Normal girls , virgins , and not prostitutes n hooters! I still remember what a girl told me once *EMZA3NI W 5AYTNI* , *EFTA7NI HABIBI* and u know wut happens? i got her pregnant, but there was a medicine 7ata itnazel 4 sure!, w nazalat w it5ayatat and shes married with 2 kids now, her husband thinks that his wife is one of sabe3 shorafa2 macca! he knows nothing, and that's how it goes nowadays! Its a new fation here in Jordan, 70% of Virgins in Jordan are not really virgins! 40% is doing anal sex, and 30% bet5ayato before getting married in 10 days! PS. I KNOW MANY DOCTORS WHO DO SUCH AN OPERATIONS , AND HEY LSN!! HURRY UP GIRLS BECAUSE THEY'RE DOING SALE! <=== HEH! IRONICALLY! OH YEAH! LETS NOT FORGET MARRIED PEOPLE TOO! WE HAVE SO MANY WOMEN THAT CHEATS ON THEIR HUSBAND WITH GUYS IN MY AGE AND VICE VERSA! IVE KNOWN SOME WOMAN BEFORE! SEX ANGER IS KILLING JORDANIAN PEOPLE! YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE WHAT AM SAYING BECAUSE I USED TO LIVE LIKE THAT! IT WAS MY SOCIETY! *cheers*

bambam
bambam

WOW someone learned "how to be condescending" today at school. Mad props to you JD

JD
JD

Theory suggests that by promoting Sex, Drugs, & Rok'nRoll, ... you keep people away from the important issues. This isn't the only sudden evolution though, satellite TV, especially Local and Regional also follow the same scheme, ... distract the public away from the main issues. Now everyone can swim, ... in several years, i doubt that many can float in a bath tub. I also doubt that the full meaning of this response will be received properly by people other than the hosts of this site. Long Live Jordan

Alaa
Alaa

hello every body, i'm actually embressed that we are being open and talking about such thing how ever to make the long story short from my personal experience i agree with the article writer in some points. i have been into night clubs since i was 20 and in few years of going there i didn't really meet a jordanian chick 99% of the girls are working there and it should be a paid relation. prostitutions always around local chicks not in night clubs i dare any body to name one single area without a house that provide such serves how ever its hidden mostly and very hard to locate them and that was in the past. i left jordan in 2005 to KSA and as a celebrating thing my friends and i went to syria and because we are not syrians it was a peace of cake for us to find what we were looking for. during the last 7 years i travelled to several countries and always kept in touch threw the internet and some chat programms and i came to jordan on visits at least 4 times a year. and you might be surprised how many times i got lucky with local chicks after chatting with them for few weeks before i drop by to meet them in jordan and invite them to spend some decent time at my place. sadly in 95% of the cases i had to lie and pretend that this relation will lead us to marriage but i believe it's not about money or about sexual needs it has something to do with marriage always and the way of getting married in this time so the girl have to do what she have to do and by the end of the day it's not a career for them it will end up as soon as they get married. thanks in advance

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